Sure, it sucks not to see those early morning romantic text messages waiting for you, but does it make sense to keep crying over spilled milk? As much as that relationship meant a lot to you, you shouldn’t sulk as a result of the breakup. Now that what was meant to be forever is over, it’s best to pick yourself up and move on to other things. But how do you recover from a bad breakup?
Having to experience a breakup is undeniably tough and can sap a lot of energy. Although no one expects you to be all sunshine and rainbows like nothing happened, there are things you could do to help oil the wheels of your healing process.
This is the right time for some self-rediscovery — a time to find out who you are and what makes you happy. It sounds harsh but it’s been proven that resisting the temptation of reliving your broken relationship memories has helped a lot of people stay afloat during that period of their lives. It’s okay to mourn because you literally just lost someone with whom you shared a part of you, but don’t stay there too long.
While there’re no hard and fast rules to getting over a breakup, these tips would help lead you on the right path to recovery, and soon enough you’ll be singing a new love song.
Check out 7 effective tips on how to get over a breakup in no time…
#1. Practice self-love
Perhaps, your partner initiated the breakup and now you’re left feeling like there’s something wrong with you. This is perfectly normal, but it’s not helpful. Rather than pick at yourself and think of everything that’s wrong with you, take time to practice some self-love to make you feel special again. For instance, take time out each day to remind yourself how amazing you are. Begin by writing what you like about yourself and then say those traits out as a reminder of your awesomeness. Yup, you still got it!
#2. Give it time
I know you’d like to sleep and wake up to realize that you’ve gotten over your ex, but that’s an unrealistic goal. Breakups hurt, and worse still, recovery takes some time. So, give your heart the time it needs to get over the past, no matter how long it drags on. As they say, Rome wasn’t built in a day.
#3. Get closure and wrap it up
This is the time to seek out the answers you might need to clear up any doubts lingering in the air. Also, if you have investments together, use this period to discuss how to split all that so you can move on. These things have to be done in a mature way so that during the withdrawal period, these loose ends won’t be used as an excuse to put a call through to your ex.
#4. Take some time off to cry
When a breakup hits deeply, it is tempting to want to try and suppress your emotions but this has proven to be more toxic than helpful. It is, of course, inappropriate to let out all these emotions in public so take time out for yourself to cry, scream, write, listen to solemn music, unfollow the ex on social media, amongst other things. This whole process of purging is perfectly normal and healthy. Allow yourself to feel your emotions deeply, that’s the beginning of the healing process.
#5. Keep yourself busy
This is definitely not the time to quit your job and stay home crying and reminiscing all day long. Rather, it’s a crucial time to fill up the vacuum which your ex has left behind. All those times allocated to date nights and long calls are probably empty right now and seeing that nature thrives on vacuum, it’s time to stuff them up to reduce the chances of being tempted enough to reach out to your ex.
#6. Meet new people
Be friendly and open to meeting new friends. You don’t need to have a rebound, but putting yourself out there again after a breakup could help boost your self-confidence. It has to be taken slow and steady to avoid rushing into a relationship that might not be healthy. After all, you just got out of one that left your heart shredded in pieces.
#7. Get a support system
A breakup comes with that feeling of rejection which tampers with the self-esteem of even the strongest of individuals. At this point, most start to feel not good enough and this is where it is important to have supportive friends and family who will show you that you still matter to them. It is okay to rely on these people for the time being while you work on rebuilding yourself again. Know that rejection is actually just redirection.
These are not standard rules but we hope you’ll find this helpful enough to get back up. If at any time you feel things spinning out of your control, do not hesitate to seek professional help immediately.
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